By Leo BabautaIt’s easy to get upset at someone who has hurt you — but what’s the best way to get them back? What kind of revenge, served cold perhaps, can you dream up? I recently had someone write to me about this:
There are some important issues going on here:
I’m obviously going to argue against revenge, so I should just say that now rather than acting like it’s going to surprise you. Instead, let me present my arguments against revenge, then offer up a different approach. A Few Arguments Against RevengeSo why not just do what feels right, and lash out at them somehow? There are some big problems with that:
So if retaliation and revenge aren’t the best ideas, what’s better? A More Compassionate ApproachI believe a more compassionate approach is better, because:
You might disagree with these reasons, but I’ve found them to be true. Here’s how to do it.
None of this is easy. I’m not claiming there are miracle solutions. But it’s not easy to hurt your relationship with escalating retaliations, and it’s not easy to deal with resentment and anger in yourself. Compassion isn’t easier, but it does bring greater happiness all around The Magic of Forming New RelationshipsI’d like to invite you to join me in my new course in the Sea Change Program to help others get good at making friends and dating … it’s called “The Magic of Forming New Relationships,” and it has just started. Join me! The course features a guest expert, other than myself … my good friend Tynan, who is a blogger, author, coach and expert on topics ranging from minimalism, travel, productivity, habits, social dynamics, awesome cruise travel and much more. Tynan is a former pickup artist (he’s a good person, I swear) who learned to not suck at talking to girls, not suck at storytelling, and apply what he learned to making friends. I’m honored to have him as a guest expert. So what’s this course about? We’ll talk about making new friends and also dating — both involve getting out of our comfort zone and making new connections. It can be life-changing stuff. Here are the video lessons — the first two have just came out:
It’ll be amazing. We’ll also talk about telling good stories, creating a great experience for the other person, and other awesome stuff that will help anyone, no matter where you are in life. Here’s how it works:
This is all included in my Sea Change Program, which you can sign up for today. You also get access to a huge library of other courses and content for changing your life, one step at a time. via Tumblr The Eternal Dilemma: Revenge or Forgiveness?
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